I have to share a secret.
Prostitutes fascinate me.
Don't get me wrong; I am not talking about those slut bitches who hang out in bars, waiting for some man to buy them drinks and fuck them later. I am talking about women who will exclusively sleep with men for cash.
I admire them. It's a dangerous job. It takes a certain kind of woman to endure multiple nameless partners per night--money or not. Hell, I dropped out of massage therapy school because the thought of rubbing some strange dude's back freaked me out. So to be a hooker...man, that takes guts.
No, I am not romanticizing the job. I know that many girls from other countries get brought here or to London under the guise of gainful employment, only to be trapped into prostitution. That is evil.
But women who choose it, not because they are junkies or haven't figured out their career, they have my respect. One of my high school friends--we did so many drugs together; she became an escort. She tried to get me into the trade, but I wanted to be an academic. Later on, I found out that the two had much in common, but the latter earned far less $. I've lost touch with my friend, but she made picking up men an art form. The last time I saw her, I was bartending--she came in to visit me and almost picked up my boss! I asked her not to--I knew his wife and kids; they were south siders like me, and I also understood that my boss was deeply Catholic; he would feel guilty as hell later. He was a drunk, but cheating on his wife was a line he wouldn't cross. She did what I asked. But I never saw her again. Last time I heard of her, she was living in Arizona.
No, I am not prostitution material, even though I am not shy about my body. I no longer think you need love to have sex; I don't even know where love corresponds to any bodily necessity. And sometimes women would be better off if they just got paid to do the nasty--married life sure would take on different connotations other than the metaphoric prostitution that it sometimes is.
(In a subsequent post, I will write about my attempt to get a male prostitute to meet my needs. Patience.)
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Damn, Spongy, you started this blog. Get your ass over here.
Yeah where the hell is he?
And you never cease to amaze me - can't wait to hear the male escort story.
I won't say I admire them but I see it as another profession with it's own merits and demerits. As long as they are not forced into it. A very different situation exists in much of the third world though there are a few "high class" ones who work it voluntarily.
What do you think of men both straight and gay who take the job?
A lot of male prostitutes have no choice but to service both genders unless they are very high class escorts. I don't really have an opinion, but I would never want to be with a male who had somehow been forced into the profession.
I could never be a hooker and it isn''t because I am such a nice girl. I'm really too sensitive. I think a hooker has to be bulletproof when it comes to her emotions and I am not like that at all.
I get your point. I would never be one either not because of morals but
a) I am not interested and think have much better career options.
b) don't think I have the attitude or looks am rather self conscious and yes sensitive.
As for being with someone forced into the profession I could never do that consensual it has to be.
Despite some tempting situations have always stayed away from escorts.
I have never seen anything wrong with what they do. First of all most of the ones that you are talking about here are safe. They are educated in STD's and take great medical care of themselves. They make sure that they don't get caught up with serial killers etc. I think it should be legal and taxed. Then again, I think pot should be too but that's a whole other issue. I have a friend who is a stripper here in KC. When she isn't working and if she doesn't tel you what she did for a living you would never know. She is classy and very educated but she makes more money doing what she does.
I think it's better then being a politician and whoring yourself out ...
Agreed. In the so-called straight world of work, we are constantly asked to whore ourselves out. I'm having a big problem with that right now on the job. I too, think pot should be legal and some harder stuff as it only creates busy work for the police, stupid arrests and jail time for people who really are not criminals. My friend did get arrested once for her work; she wasn't hooking per se, but a man posed as wanting an escort; he wanted her to have sex and offered extra money and she agreed, then he flashed his badge. She got a good lawyer as it was entrapment, pure and simple. My friend was also going to college as well.
Much of sex among two people becomes a business transaction anyway. But I don't want to go there--I get too damn cynical.
as long as one doesn't have second thoughts about what he/she is doing,they are absolutely entitled to pursue their whims.
But nothing should be done out of desperation,frustration or it's easy.
There's an easy way and there's a right way(right in their view,not mine).Sometimes they are the same,but many a times they are different.Right way is the way to go.Be truthful to yourself.
all said,I believe that sometimes,things happen and we usually find ourselves in a place where we don't want to be.Some people call it destiny.I feel that HE is looking for drama and trying to mix things.LOL
I see your point, Desperado. Prostitution is often equated with immorality in the Bible, yet Judah slept with his daughter in law who posed as a prostitute in order to make Judah recognize that he had been mistreating her by not allowing her to marry his youngest son. From Judah came King David, and from David came Jesus. So Jesus himself came from an act of prostitution. The metaphoric ramifications are endless, but one I see is that Jesus did not fear his lineage; what some outwardly called sin, he saw as something else. He always looked at the person's heart, not the facade. Our bodies are temples yet he consented to come from ancestors that thought differently.
I have a point, but I don't seem to be making it!
Desparado, I have second thoughts and third thoughts about my job - a software engineer - as I am sure people of many professions do. Do we because of moral reasons somehow make happiness an expectation? After all many people aren't really doing work that they truly like.
How can you admire some bitch who tries to talk men into cheating on their wives and ruining their families for a living? True, the man could do it anyway, but they don't need someone going out of their way to tempt them.
I'm lookin forward to the one you write on men. Know where I can apply, hell I may as well get paid for it!
I've known quite a few, both male and female. I think there are many different reasons why people get into the business. While drugs seem to always be around, it's probably because they're self medicating. The drugs aren't a good causative factor.
A couple of things that I found that most pros have in common are powerful feelings of lonliness and alienation. They become separated from family, and friends are hard to come by. For most, romance is out of the question, and society tends to shun them unless they make six-figures a year (i.e., if they can keep six-figures a year).
sj:
Most people are not happy with their current job,life etc and seem to feel that doing something else will make them happy.Many a times we can't do what we want bcoz of things out of our control OR we don't have the courage to pursue what we want because of insecurities/laziness/conviction.But how SURE are we that what we want will INDEED bring us the happiness.After all the least we are sure of is our own fickle minds.Wouldn't it be more easy if we are happy irrespective of our current condition?Being happy should be our goal than trying to do something which(we think) makes us happy.Is it too much to ask of ourselves?
oh,btw i work in software industry too.Softies seem to be a frustrated lot.
anne:
you said
"True, the man could do it anyway, but they don't need someone going out of their way to tempt them.
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But do you think a man/woman deserves your/our love if he can't resist temptation.
Though many might dispute this,it's a matter of self-control(or lack of it) and not love(or lack of it) which make people astray and be unfaithful.
CV:
Self love and no remorse with self's actions can only make us happy.
I seem to be getting your point,or i think so.
note to self:you could have completed a couple of new posts in your blog by this time.(you idiot)
Desperado--you are a good person and I'm glad we have crossed paths. Let's just say I had to come to terms with prostitution relatively early in my life, and it doesn't bother me. Maybe it should, but it doesn't.
glad to know I have been useful somehow.
I've been working on part 2 in my mind, but I think I will have to be intoxicated and rested to write it. It is usually one or the other.
Enemy just spill what is on your mind!!! I can't wait to read more!
Just posted it. Part 3 awaits--it was getting too long.
I agree with Spongy. It should be legalized nationwide. Let's face it, women have been doing it for centuries, and men as well, so let's get these people some benefits, please?
I dont know much about prostituting.....but I love sex..lol
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